I also live in a small town. Being 'antisocial' just does not work in small towns - did you come from a city?
When you are new, people will only come to you if they really have to. It takes years to be accepted, and only then when you have 'proven' yourself as a contributing member of the community.

Small towns exist because of volunteering, it is a great way to get noticed, especially if you do one or two free jobs for the clubs. Get involved.
Don't have time... don't want to... I hear you say? The dynamics are so different in a small town to a larger one that a business can't survive if you don't fit in. People will seek you out if/when they trust you but it takes time, and a lot of work.


Cheers,
Rowan